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Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Aint No Place






My bitter experiences have taught me, that being a woman in itself is a curse. Women seem to have no place they can call their own. A woman is either in her father's home, or her husband's home or later in her son's home. It's not alone the material place I'm talking about, it's the sense of belongingness, the fact that she has to be dominated, and nothing is to belong to her, but she has to belong somewhere, only to be treated like a commodity, property or a thing. She can belong only when certain "conditions" (more or less similar to slavery) are met. I don't know about the west, but that's how it is in the east. It's a sin to be born a woman. Women are neither respected nor loved unconditionally. Give me one example of a son who loves his mother unconditionally, or a brother who would do anything for his sister unconditionally, or a father or husband who loves his wife or daughters unconditionally? (We do find exceptions at times)


I havent known many people who respect women. Infact, the only example of respect for women I find in the history of Islam and the life of Prophet Mohammad PBUH. Other than that, I see disrespect for women all around; and I'm talking East. A mother's role is reduced to being a servant alone. It has become a trend not to give the sisters their due share in the father's property. The situation here today is a 100% the same as the times before Islam in Makkah. Sad indeed !


2 comments:

furqan said...

i see things from an other angle, sadly thr r thousands of women who r traped in various frms of violence in our country bt apart frm tht no. women r considered n treated with gr8 respect in our society. . .we need to b optimistic, A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked... again, ‘Then who...?' The Prophet said: Then your father.

Sobia Nosheen Saleh said...

That is so true Furqan, but like I said, we find that respect only in the history. Our society is not entirely following that.

The reason why there is violence against women in our society, is because people are ignorant of the respect given to a woman in Islam.
If things were not so bad, there would be no need for any campaign against such violence.

The solution is to educate people in this regard.